Staying Together for the Kids

Staying Together for the Kids
I scrambled my thoughts to decipher pros and cons to staying together. Being a young mom is unnerving enough without topping the label off to “single mom”. Have you ever found your heart crushed so badly that you can never imagine placing the shattered fragments back together? My entire being was tattered and shredded, and what was worse, I was seven months pregnant when he did what he did. Marriages are not perfect and the best take a lot of work, so how was mine different? Continue reading

My Dearest Smarty Pants

My Dearest Smarty Pants
I have been asked one solitary question a lot over the course of my child’s rearing. This question is not so easily answered, it’s complicated. A part of me wants to tell the world that every child has the capacity to learn and absorb the same way as my child, but I have to wonder if I truly believe that myself. Still, this question constantly rings in my ears, like a tribal drum pounding out its cries, beseeching answers in the distance. How does your kid do it? The answer is... Continue reading

Blame & Shame – A Teen Pregnancy Story

Blame & Shame – A Teen Pregnancy Story

This is a taboo subject, one that is difficult to discuss. We frown down on the teen who gets herself “in trouble”. It feels as though we have become a society that values judgement, more than support. We do not seem to advocate, just allocate blame and shame. If you are a mom who has a daughter who is in this situation, how should you feel? Here is the question dangling on the finality of decisions that rule the future. Do you feel significantly more mortal as you hang onto that vile word, Grandma? How do you process this information? Continue reading

6 Ways To Keep The Relationship Alive After Baby

6 Ways To Keep The Relationship Alive After Baby
Can you recall that beautifully impressive moment when the two of you heard your baby cry for the first time? I remember it implicitly. When our baby cried it was the most unified we had ever felt. Our baby, the little human that we created together, was here. We were now bonded together forever through this tiny person, who would forever depend on us. A true dependent. Let that sink in. We just went from unified, to dependency in seconds. This is the instant that you go from euphoria to pure unadulterated responsibility. How long did it take for your buzz kill to kick in? Hours? Days? Weeks? If it has not happened yet, it will. Here are six significant tips that will help you and your partner keep the love alive. Continue reading

He Didn’t Have To

He Didn’t Have To
On this Father’s Day let us recognize, not only the men who made babies and are raising them, but more importantly the men who didn’t have to. To all of the fathers out there who love their kids, biological or otherwise, we solute you. Continue reading

Asperger’s Syndrome & My Child

Asperger’s Syndrome & My Child

When I considered writing this piece I had no clue where to start. I mean, how do you sum up the last eighteen years into a few pages? Well, I can’t. What I can do is tell you how it feels to be a mom of a child who was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome Disorder (ASD). There have been many set-backs, challenges, opportunities, wondrously momentous occasions, milestones in development, as well as a love that exceeds all parental expectations. This journey has been one of the most prolific in my life. My daughter has been an influential person, shaping the Continue reading