To the Aunts, Thank You.

To the Aunts, Thank You.

Growing up I was surrounded by incredible women. My parents had an amazing group of friends that were family to us. I always referred to them as aunts and uncles, not even realizing that we weren’t related at all. As a child, DNA meant nothing when it came to who family was. Family consisted of the people that loved me and made me feel safe. These Aunts of mine were instrumental in raising me, even though they didn’t have to be.

My Aunts were there for my mom when I was an unruly toddler. They were there for me when Continue reading

Blame & Shame – A Teen Pregnancy Story

Blame & Shame – A Teen Pregnancy Story

This is a taboo subject, one that is difficult to discuss. We frown down on the teen who gets herself “in trouble”. It feels as though we have become a society that values judgement, more than support. We do not seem to advocate, just allocate blame and shame. If you are a mom who has a daughter who is in this situation, how should you feel? Here is the question dangling on the finality of decisions that rule the future. Do you feel significantly more mortal as you hang onto that vile word, Grandma? How do you process this information? Continue reading

6 Ways To Keep The Relationship Alive After Baby

6 Ways To Keep The Relationship Alive After Baby
Can you recall that beautifully impressive moment when the two of you heard your baby cry for the first time? I remember it implicitly. When our baby cried it was the most unified we had ever felt. Our baby, the little human that we created together, was here. We were now bonded together forever through this tiny person, who would forever depend on us. A true dependent. Let that sink in. We just went from unified, to dependency in seconds. This is the instant that you go from euphoria to pure unadulterated responsibility. How long did it take for your buzz kill to kick in? Hours? Days? Weeks? If it has not happened yet, it will. Here are six significant tips that will help you and your partner keep the love alive. Continue reading

He Didn’t Have To

He Didn’t Have To
On this Father’s Day let us recognize, not only the men who made babies and are raising them, but more importantly the men who didn’t have to. To all of the fathers out there who love their kids, biological or otherwise, we solute you. Continue reading

Yes, The Kids Are Fine

Yes, The Kids Are Fine

It happens every day. Multiple times a day. I receive a text or a phone call and the first question asked is, “How are the kids?” If you are a mother like me, you know this all too well. “How are the kids,” is a question we answer to just about every person we talk with, whether it’s online, in person or over the phone. People want to know about the kids. Well, what about me? I want someone to ask me how I am doing, how MY day going, what’s new in my world,

I think as mothers we Continue reading

Four Birds on a Branch

Four Birds on a Branch

The three birds flew through the cloudy skies of northern California due north on that brisk January morning. The three friends; a Crow, a Pigeon and a Blue Jay, would have made a strange picture had anyone with a camera and telephoto lens had the mind to snap a shot. Much higher in altitude, hundreds of Canadian Geese flew in perfect V formation in exactly the opposite direction.

“Hey,” squawked the crow, “there’s another group of Canadians flying in the wrong direction. Why do you suppose they are so confused?” She tried to point upwards with her right wing, instead Continue reading

Bullying

Bullying
Do you ever wonder what happened to people with low self-worth, low self-esteem, and little to no self-confidence? It seems that these people end up one of two ways, either they drift off into the shadows of life and harbor their disgust of it, or they project their unhappiness onto others. Have you heard that old saying? It is simple and true. “Misery loves company.” I am personally struggling with this issue. As I write this, I’m being bullied, and have been for the last several years. In my case, and most cases, the bullying stems from jealousy and insecurity. Continue reading

How Kidney Stones Have Influenced My Parenting

How Kidney Stones Have Influenced My Parenting
Have you ever had a traumatic event or a physical ailment happen that was so bad, it shaped the way you parent? Well, my experiences with kidney stones were horrible, and had such a huge impact on me, that they have actually influenced how I mother my child. My situation also shaped the way I feel as a mother and my ability to tolerate pain. Continue reading